It’s been a while since I posted here.
It’s been an interesting journey to say the least.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of “change your thoughts, change your life”. It seems people think they have found a new tool to use to change parts of their lives. They start by using affirmations, or quotes from other people, or even memes. Then it seems they start to abandon their efforts due to the lack of desired effect. Then they feel empowered again by reading someone else’s experience, or listen to a motivational speaker. They get motivated to try again. And again. And again.
I feel that there is a fundamental truth to the “thoughts create your reality” concept. The underlying principle is a universal law. It just feels “true”, as if we somehow have known all along.
Now… many of us try to use this to change a certain part of our lives; finances, relationships, health, etc. The problem is that changing only one aspect is nearly impossible. You see, the creator of that one aspect also created the other aspects from the same spot. If the spot changes, everything changes.
You can (if you want) think of everything as a “relationship”. Relationship with, money, love, health, others, the world, source, etc. They are all still relationships. How do you relate?
So, expect everything to change. Welcome it, embrace it, and enjoy the ride. It will change for sure, that you can count on.
#bethechange #breathefire #tryiton #gottaloveit
“My reality is collapsing”!
These were the words I said to myself as I started running this morning. It felt like what I “knew to be reality” was no longer valid. The ground I was running on was not the same, the view of my neighborhood was different, my stride was different, my breathing, how I felt about running, everything was askew.
I noticed my head was up instead of down. I consider myself a head down runner. Why eyes are usually looking at the ground as I run. I guess it was important to see any obstacles ahead of time so I had enough time to react and avoid an injury. It also explains why I can run the same route without getting bored. Not today! My head was up. So much so, that as I thought about how high my head was, it went even higher, almost to the point of looking up. It felt strange and liberating at the same time.
I have been student and practitioner of NLP and other change strategies for a long time. Last week I experimented with a technique on an old, painful memory. Up till then I worked on this memory from the perspective of learning from it, forgiving, reliving it to “see” different perspectives, placing myself in different viewpoints, etc., but this new approach sort of obliterated the memory. This technique changed it in my minds eye, thus changing its impact on me and my life. I felt as though the pages in my instruction manual were going blank. I just looked at these blank pages, waiting for the instructions to show up. They never did. The pages were just bank, page after page, so I started writing.
I realized that I get to fill in the blanks. Since we do this automatically, it was exhilarating to be able to do it intentionally. Who do I want to be? How do I want to handle stuff? What kind of leader do I want to be? Freedom, power, responsibility, adventure, and excitement were some of the feelings I experienced while looking at these blank pages.
Have you ever heard someone say: “if only life came with an instruction manual”? It does… we write it as we go. Sometimes by default, and sometimes on purpose. But we write it. How are you writing yours; as a reaction to what you experience or are you proactive? Do you participate or are you a spectator? Who’s in charge here? Maybe you need to speak to the manager.
I’ve been noticing this world a-lot more lately; hope. “I hope this happens” or, “I hope she gets better” or, “I hope things turn around”, “I hope this president _____”, etc…
“Hope” vs. “expectation”.
The energy of the word “Hope” includes and ingredient of fear, whereas the word “Expect” does not. Hope usually comes from a fear place fear of unworthiness, fear of being unlucky, invisible, or unimportant. , Expectation comes from knowing, intuition, almost taken for granted.
Hope depends on others to manifest outside your privy, or your responsibility, expectation manifests for you, because of you, and from within you.
Does life happen TO you or does life happen FOR you?
Try it on. Change your hope for expectation. If it feels uncomfortable, good, it’s a starting place to find any limiting beliefs about yourself. You are beautiful. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of all that you desire. It boils down to what you believe about yourself and your relationship to you life.
I’m not saying don’t hope, hope is valuable. Instead, expecting what you desire rather than hoping for it sends a very clear message to the universe. Subtle, silent, and strong expectation; like expecting tomorrow to come, or your next breath. Simple concept, difficult practice.
I hope this makes sense. 😉
This is sort of a re-post from a few years back.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me”.
This was the quote we were taught to say when we were younger (I’m 50) when someone would call us names. We used to say it like a little kid, nanny nanny boo boo. In the mean time, we would walk a way with this feeling in our guts, this pain, these burning questions, why didn’t that work, or why do I still feel bad?
It’s because Words Are Powerful…Period.
Words cause our nervous systems to respond. They cause physiological and neurological responses in our bodies. Good words, bad words, and neutral words. More importantly are the meanings we give those words.
Ask yourself if you would talk to others the way you talk to yourself. Would you? Do you speak highly to yourself or poorly? Do you nurture yourself, or condemn or criticize? Are you forgiving and compassionate or judgmental and disappointed? Choose wisely your words to yourself and to others, they are part of the palette we use to paint our worlds.
Original Post 2/17/2015
Do it….Take the first step
Motivation is important. But what do you do when that flash of motivation starts to dim? Where is the inspiration, the spark that started the whole thing?
A little determination might be in order to keep the motivation in high gear. How about humility, realistic goal setting, clear vision, certainty, or patience? These are just a few ingredients for change.
When I was cycling, I used to look up at the top of a hill I was climbing (searching for my next breath) and realized that I’d get psyched out while looking at the top. I started the mantra “big circles, big circles” (the circles your feet make while pedaling), ignoring the distance to the top to focus on only making big circles. One circle after another is what got me to the top (as well as that breath I was looking for). I use this mantra while running, practicing karate, teaching, or anything that requires quiet determination…one step at a time.
For some of us the first step is the hardest. The motivation, inspiration, and all the ingredients are there, however if you are not willing to ACT, you will not move from where you are right now. The first step is the most important. It establishes momentum. I still find myself struggling with that first step. My inner thoughts are often: I don’t want to waste time. I don’t want to make another mistake or I’m afraid my dreams will be shattered and I don’t want to look foolish. All of these obstacles are self imposed. Take a step, any step. The right step, the wrong step, any step will do. Take it and see what happens. Some of us need to structure each step. Some of us just need to take the first one and off we go. I tell my karate students all the time, you will never know what you can do unless you try. So….try it. Take a step.