Blame

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Often times I experience people who appear happy on the outside yet display something else in a much more subtle way. One of the skills I acquired during my lifetime is to recognize when what a person is saying does not match what they are not saying. This often comes across as deceit. I have learned never to assume that people that exhibit this behavior are intentionally being deceitful to me (or to whomever they are speaking), but may be being somewhat deceitful to themselves, may be trying on a new attitude or mindset, or may possible be uncomfortable.

One thing that stands out to me is a pattern of blame. When I experience someone who has a habit of blaming everything on something or someone else, it is usually indicative of general unhappiness. Sometimes it is about control. When something is out of our control it is much easier to blame it this or that, rather than hold ourselves accountable. NOT blame ourselves, hold ourselves accountable for how we feel, hoe we respond, and our behavior in the face of any circumstance.

Lately, during these especially trying times of uncertainty, I see more and more blame; blame China, blame Trump, blame the left, blame the right, blame the government, the CDC, aliens, bats soup, shadow government, you name it.

Blame dis-empowers us. It adds to the helplessness we feel and to the pain of uncertainty. It perpetuates the need to feel certain and significant during stressful times. Our need to be right surpasses our desire to be happy. Our need for structure and surety replaces our curious, adventurous selves.

Fear does some amazing things to us. It makes us do crazy things, courageous things, pragmatic things, smart things, dumb things, and sometimes things that we would never think of. It’s important to keep a cool head, and not let fear and panic get in the way of getting through this.

What are you focused on? Are you thinking about how 2 weeks stuck with your family of by yourself will drive you crazy, or are you thinking of tackling to that chore you’ve been putting off? Are you focused on what’s going to happen if the emergency gets extended, or are you focused on eating well and staying healthy? You have a choice! Chose wisely.

There are many things we can do to feel certain and safe, loved and appreciated, important and significant. What do you need? How can I help? How can you help someone who needs what you need? Give a little, get a lot. Helping your family, loved ones, and friends stay calm and safe will put you in that place. Try It On!

Stay calm, get some fresh air, go for a walk, get some exercise, teleconference with friends and family, learn a new skill, read a good book, there are endless positive things to focus on.

Peace, Love, and Light

Life Happens For You

It’s been a while since I posted here.

It’s been an interesting journey to say the least.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of “change your thoughts, change your life”. It seems people think they have found a new tool to use to change parts of their lives. They start by using affirmations, or quotes from other people, or even memes. Then it seems they start to abandon their efforts due to the lack of desired effect. Then they feel empowered again by reading someone else’s experience, or listen to a motivational speaker. They get motivated to try again. And again.  And again.

I feel that there is a fundamental truth to the “thoughts create your reality” concept. The underlying principle is a universal law. It just feels “true”, as if we somehow have known all along.

Now… many of us try to use this to change a certain part of our lives; finances, relationships, health, etc.  The problem is that changing only one aspect is nearly impossible.  You see, the creator of that one aspect also created the other aspects from the same spot.  If the spot changes, everything changes.

You can (if you want) think of everything as a “relationship”.  Relationship with, money, love, health, others, the world, source, etc. They are all still relationships.  How do you relate?

So, expect everything to change. Welcome it, embrace it, and enjoy the ride.  It will change for sure, that you can count on.

Peace.

#bethechange #breathefire #tryiton #gottaloveit

 

Hope

I’ve been noticing this world a-lot more lately; hope.  “I hope this happens” or, “I hope she gets better” or, “I hope things turn around”, “I hope this president _____”, etc…

“Hope” vs. “expectation”.

The energy of the word Hope includes and ingredient of fear, expectation does not. Hope usually comes from a fear place fear of unworthiness, fear of being unlucky, invisible, or unimportant. , Expectation comes from knowing, intuition, almost taken for granted.

Hope depends on others to manifest outside your privy, or your responsibility, expectation manifests for you, because of you, and from within you.

Does life happen TO you or does life happen FOR you?

Try it on.  Change your hope for expectation. If it feels uncomfortable, good, it’s a starting place to find any limiting beliefs about yourself. You are beautiful. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of all that you desire. It boils down to what you believe about yourself and your relationship to you life.

I’m not saying don’t hope, hope is valuable. Instead, expecting what you desire rather than hoping for it sends a very clear message to the universe. Subtle, silent, and strong expectation; like expecting tomorrow to come, or your next breath. Simple concept, difficult practice.

I hope this makes sense.  😉

#breathefire

#tryiton

#gottaloveit

#lookforthepain

#hope

 

Jack of All Trades

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The original quote goes: ” a Jack of all trades is a master of none, but often better than a master of one”.

I always felt that my proclivity to learning many things was a bad thing. Then I came across Emily Wapnick’s article and Ted talk on Multipotentialites. I am that…. for sure.  I have done many things, I learn about a lot of things, I am curious about many things.  Up until recently all of these things were purposeful, distracting, and in spite of a limiting belief. Once I resolved (removed) the limiting belief, I feel like a train running downhill. UNSTOPPABLE!

I still struggle with the stigma that I am a jack of all trades, master of none.  It’s usually referred to in the derogatory. In actuality, I am a Master Jack of All Trades.  I learn quickly and competently. I understand systems and how things work.  Then I came across the actual quote.  Interesting how our beliefs create our realities.

The common denominator of all the things I have done, not including the restaurant field, is that I fix things.  I have a knack for figuring out how something is supposed to work, finding the problem then a solution.  Cars, buildings, computers, people; just to name a few. Now I teach martial arts, fitness, self defense, and I am a peak performance coach.

My problem is that if something is not broken, and I need to figure out how something is supposed to work, the problem is not easily seen, hence, the solution is equally evasive. Example; marketing my business, and learning what works. I am learning what doesn’t work, and the trials are frustrating, especially when I am good at finding problems. In a way I need to create problems so I can identify them and try something else. Bring It!

Are you a renaissance man/woman? Shine baby, Shine! Be the Master Jack of All Trades!

 

…often better than a master of one.

 

#breathefire

#tryiton

#makeyourmove

#gottaloveit

Do It

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Original Post 2/17/2015

Do it….Take the first step

Motivation is important. But what do you do when that flash of motivation starts to dim?  Where is the inspiration, the spark that started the whole thing?

A little determination might be in order to keep the motivation in high gear. How about humility, realistic goal setting, clear vision, certainty, or patience? These are just a few ingredients for change.

When I was cycling, I used to look up at the top of a hill I was climbing (searching for my next breath) and realized that I’d get psyched out while looking at the top. I started the mantra “big circles, big circles” (the circles your feet make while pedaling), ignoring the distance to the top to focus on only  making big circles. One circle after another is what got me to the top (as well as that breath I was looking for). I use this mantra while running, practicing karate, teaching, or anything that requires quiet determination…one step at a time.

For some of us the first step is the hardest.  The motivation, inspiration, and all the ingredients are there, however if you are not willing to ACT, you will not move from where you are right now. The first step is the most important. It establishes momentum.  I still find myself struggling with that first step.  My inner thoughts are often: I don’t want to waste time.  I don’t want to make another mistake or I’m afraid my dreams will be shattered and I don’t want to look foolish.   All of these obstacles are self imposed.  Take a step, any step. The right step, the wrong step, any step will do. Take it and see what happens. Some of us need to structure each step. Some of us just need to take the first one and off we go. I tell my karate students all the time, you will never know what you can do unless you try. So….try it.  Take a step.

#tryiton

#gottaloveit

#makeyourmove