Hey There Beautiful!

Yes YOU….B E A U T I F U L ! You thought I was talking to someone else?

How often do you address or even acknowledge your beauty? When was the last time you looked in the mirror and expressed appreciation for the beauty in you, the REAL you? Do you spend more time looking at what you don’t like about yourself, your life, your situation, your house, job, hair, weight, city, family, relationship, or life in general?

Well?…… STOP IT! Just stop. It’s OK to not be happy with (fill in the blank), after all, it’s how we generate desire, evolve, change, and grow. Just DON’T LIVE THERE!

If you live in that place of dissatisfaction, the rest of you, the beautiful you, gets covered, like a garden of flowers. If you don’t control the weeds, the flowers will get covered and eventually they will stop growing all together.

Here’s an exercise for you…..

Feed the flowers: Every single morning when you look at yourself in the mirror, say “I Love You”. Try it. It may be uncomfortable at first. But keep doing it. The part that you are speaking to might say something like “who me? you talking to me? I haven’t heard from you in a while I almost forgot the sound of your voice.” Keep doing it. And, to make it even more powerful, say it at night right before you go to bed. Every. Single. Night.

That body of yours, the one you criticize over and over again; when was the last time you thanked it for moving you around, for supporting you, for carrying your ass everywhere? Speak to it as you would a child. Be nice, be appreciative, be grateful, and encouraging. If you don’t like something about it, conspire with it to change WITH you, not FOR you.

Pull the weeds: Every cell in your body is listening to your words. Your words are powerful, so use good ones, elevating ones, and helpful ones. STOP looking at yourself and saying things like “I hate my body” It’s listening to you. Bio-energetic changes occur with your language. Be nice.

Now don’t bullshit it either, it’s smarter than you think. Don’t go from “I hate you” to “I love you”. Ease into it by just saying “thank you”, then go to “I appreciate you”, and eventually you’ll get to “You Freaking ROCK!”.

Try It On. Go ahead. #TRYITON

State of mind

I’ve been hearing this phrase for a few years now; mindset, state of mind, money mind, etc… I often wondered what it meant to have a poverty mindset, or abundance mindset. Until recently there seemed to be cloudiness around what I was able to see within myself.

For the last 30 years I have been a student of the self; my being, my mind, my programs, my history, my belief systems, constantly on a path of self mastery. I have read more than I ever thought I could, took more classes, workshops, weekend events, healing modalities, did hypnosis work, the list goes on.

Then it hit me. I have been looking to “fix” something that I believed was broken within myself. The mere fact that I was looking for something pointed to what I felt I was lacking.

As long as I am looking for cures, help, fixes, changes, improvements, I am in a “broken” or incomplete mindset. The trick for me is to recognize that the habit of self improvement needs to be for a different reason than why it started.

I believe in a growth mindset from a position of power and not weakness or pain/fear. Learn, evolve, challenge current systems, and keep moving forward. Even rest needs to be part of this. Knowing when to simply play is important as well. Always give yourself time to enjoy the ride.

And STOP trying to fix yourself! You are perfect and you are on the right track.