Life Happens For You

It’s been a while since I posted here.

It’s been an interesting journey to say the least.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of “change your thoughts, change your life”. It seems people think they have found a new tool to use to change parts of their lives. They start by using affirmations, or quotes from other people, or even memes. Then it seems they start to abandon their efforts due to the lack of desired effect. Then they feel empowered again by reading someone else’s experience, or listen to a motivational speaker. They get motivated to try again. And again.  And again.

I feel that there is a fundamental truth to the “thoughts create your reality” concept. The underlying principle is a universal law. It just feels “true”, as if we somehow have known all along.

Now… many of us try to use this to change a certain part of our lives; finances, relationships, health, etc.  The problem is that changing only one aspect is nearly impossible.  You see, the creator of that one aspect also created the other aspects from the same spot.  If the spot changes, everything changes.

You can (if you want) think of everything as a “relationship”.  Relationship with, money, love, health, others, the world, source, etc. They are all still relationships.  How do you relate?

So, expect everything to change. Welcome it, embrace it, and enjoy the ride.  It will change for sure, that you can count on.


#bethechange #breathefire #tryiton #gottaloveit



I’ve been noticing this world a-lot more lately; hope.  “I hope this happens” or, “I hope she gets better” or, “I hope things turn around”, “I hope this president _____”, etc…

“Hope” vs. “expectation”.

The energy of the word “Hope” includes and ingredient of fear, whereas the word “Expect” does not. Hope usually comes from a fear place fear of unworthiness, fear of being unlucky, invisible, or unimportant. , Expectation comes from knowing, intuition, almost taken for granted.

Hope depends on others to manifest outside your privy, or your responsibility, expectation manifests for you, because of you, and from within you.

Does life happen TO you or does life happen FOR you?

Try it on.  Change your hope for expectation. If it feels uncomfortable, good, it’s a starting place to find any limiting beliefs about yourself. You are beautiful. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of all that you desire. It boils down to what you believe about yourself and your relationship to you life.

I’m not saying don’t hope, hope is valuable. Instead, expecting what you desire rather than hoping for it sends a very clear message to the universe. Subtle, silent, and strong expectation; like expecting tomorrow to come, or your next breath. Simple concept, difficult practice.

I hope this makes sense.  😉






Watch Your Mouth

Do it

This is sort of a re-post from a few years back.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me”.

This was the quote we were taught to say when we were younger (I’m 50) when someone would call us names. We used to say it like a little kid, nanny nanny boo boo. In the mean time, we would walk a way with this feeling in our guts, this pain, these burning questions, why didn’t that work, or why do I still feel bad?

It’s because Words Are Powerful…Period.

Words cause our nervous systems to respond. They cause physiological and neurological responses in our bodies. Good words, bad words, and neutral words. More importantly are the meanings we give those words.

Ask yourself if you would talk to others the way you talk to yourself. Would you?  Do you speak highly to yourself or poorly?  Do you nurture yourself, or condemn or criticize? Are you forgiving and compassionate or judgmental and disappointed? Choose wisely your words to yourself and to others, they are part of the palette we use to paint our worlds.






Forgiveness – Deep Clean

A long time ago I came across Ho’oponopono, the ancient Hawaiian / Polynesian process of forgiveness. I used this and had amazing results. I still use this process today, not in the exact method, but in the spirit of it.

I also know that forgiveness is healing.  Did you get that?  Forgiveness is Healing.

The state of forgiveness is more important that the who, what, where, why, and when. However, once in the state of forgiveness, and you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and the reasons why you think they did, go ahead and forgive them for as many possible reasons why they may have hurt you. If you think you know, chances are you don’t. Now, it may not be necessary, but it may be more beneficial in the long term. It kinda cleans up any left over smudges of pain.

I found myself going over situations that pained me in the past, that still pain me in the present. So I started forgiving for multiple possibilities, and in multiple realities, in my multidimensional state, and I have found this to be much more comprehensive. It covered so much more. I felt a deep clean sensation. A complete state. A done-ness that was refreshing.

Go ahead…try it on. Forgive for all possible reasons you can think. Open up and see.






Jack of All Trades


The original quote goes: ” a Jack of all trades is a master of none, but often better than a master of one”.

I always felt that my proclivity to learning many things was a bad thing. Then I came across Emily Wapnick’s article and Ted talk on Multipotentialites. I am that…. for sure.  I have done many things, I learn about a lot of things, I am curious about many things.  Up until recently all of these things were purposeful, distracting, and in spite of a limiting belief. Once I resolved (removed) the limiting belief, I feel like a train running downhill. UNSTOPPABLE!

I still struggle with the stigma that I am a jack of all trades, master of none.  It’s usually referred to in the derogatory. In actuality, I am a Master Jack of All Trades.  I learn quickly and competently. I understand systems and how things work.  Then I came across the actual quote.  Interesting how our beliefs create our realities.

The common denominator of all the things I have done, not including the restaurant field, is that I fix things.  I have a knack for figuring out how something is supposed to work, finding the problem then a solution.  Cars, buildings, computers, people; just to name a few. Now I teach martial arts, fitness, self defense, and I am a peak performance coach.

My problem is that if something is not broken, and I need to figure out how something is supposed to work, the problem is not easily seen, hence, the solution is equally evasive. Example; marketing my business, and learning what works. I am learning what doesn’t work, and the trials are frustrating, especially when I am good at finding problems. In a way I need to create problems so I can identify them and try something else. Bring It!

Are you a renaissance man/woman? Shine baby, Shine! Be the Master Jack of All Trades!


…often better than a master of one.






Do It


Original Post 2/17/2015

Do it….Take the first step

Motivation is important. But what do you do when that flash of motivation starts to dim?  Where is the inspiration, the spark that started the whole thing?

A little determination might be in order to keep the motivation in high gear. How about humility, realistic goal setting, clear vision, certainty, or patience? These are just a few ingredients for change.

When I was cycling, I used to look up at the top of a hill I was climbing (searching for my next breath) and realized that I’d get psyched out while looking at the top. I started the mantra “big circles, big circles” (the circles your feet make while pedaling), ignoring the distance to the top to focus on only  making big circles. One circle after another is what got me to the top (as well as that breath I was looking for). I use this mantra while running, practicing karate, teaching, or anything that requires quiet determination…one step at a time.

For some of us the first step is the hardest.  The motivation, inspiration, and all the ingredients are there, however if you are not willing to ACT, you will not move from where you are right now. The first step is the most important. It establishes momentum.  I still find myself struggling with that first step.  My inner thoughts are often: I don’t want to waste time.  I don’t want to make another mistake or I’m afraid my dreams will be shattered and I don’t want to look foolish.   All of these obstacles are self imposed.  Take a step, any step. The right step, the wrong step, any step will do. Take it and see what happens. Some of us need to structure each step. Some of us just need to take the first one and off we go. I tell my karate students all the time, you will never know what you can do unless you try. So….try it.  Take a step.