I’ve been hearing this phrase for a few years now; mindset, state of mind, money mind, etc… I often wondered what it meant to have a poverty mindset, or abundance mindset. Until recently there seemed to be cloudiness around what I was able to see within myself.
For the last 30 years I have been a student of the self; my being, my mind, my programs, my history, my belief systems, constantly on a path of self mastery. I have read more than I ever thought I could, took more classes, workshops, weekend events, healing modalities, did hypnosis work, the list goes on.
Then it hit me. I have been looking to “fix” something that I believed was broken within myself. The mere fact that I was looking for something pointed to what I felt I was lacking.
As long as I am looking for cures, help, fixes, changes, improvements, I am in a “broken” or incomplete mindset. The trick for me is to recognize that the habit of self improvement needs to be for a different reason than why it started.
I believe in a growth mindset from a position of power and not weakness or pain/fear. Learn, evolve, challenge current systems, and keep moving forward. Even rest needs to be part of this. Knowing when to simply play is important as well. Always give yourself time to enjoy the ride.
And STOP trying to fix yourself! You are perfect and you are on the right track.
How you do anything is how you do everything
When you think about it, everything you experience is a relationship. Your relationship with your work, life, lover, friends, yourself, your pets, your finances, home, etc. In fact, I can’t think of anything in life that is not in relationship with ourselves. Go ahead and try for yourself.
The degree to which you relate to yourself, or aspects of yourself, is the degree to which you relate to everything, or aspects of everything. You can be attentive to some parts of your life and not others. Love some parts and not others, are interested in some aspects but not others, or simply be indifferent. The “way” you relate is what is important. “How” you think and not “what” you think. “What” you think is a product of the “how” and the same goes for “how” you relate to your world, your life, or your experience with your existence. The relationship itself is the “what”.
How do you relate to “you”? How does your relationship with others reflect your relationship with yourself? How is the world a mirror of yourself?
Try It On!
The other day I saw a neighborhood cat sitting on my wife’s car. My wife hates cats, I’m indifferent. Since I grew up with them and can’t have one due to the wife’s cat allergy, I’ve just follow along in the “ugh, cats” attitude.
The next day I washed my car (love the car), only to see little muddy cat paw prints on my hood an hour later. My first reaction was anger. “How could this little stray/not-really stray cat walk all over my car. I had fantasies of throwing something at the cat to scare it from getting back on my hood; negative reinforcement (I know better, so I only thought about it). I just washed the paw prints off and moved on.
The next morning, the little booger walked all over my hood AGAIN! The nerve of that little hairball. Oh man! I was just shaking my head. I got in my car and I drove angry.
Attitude is everything
While driving I thought to myself. I don’t like the way I feel. This anger is bullshit. It feels bad. Why would I want to feel this especially when I have so many skills in changing my state? So I went to work. “What if I were a cat person?” What if I loved cats? I would think those little paw prints were so cute! Adorable little cat prints all over my hood. Imagining the cat waking around, wanting to be near my stuff, sitting atop my car, guarding it, waiting for me.
That changed everything.
Go ahead… Try It On.
What if your judgements were different? What would LOVE do? How would LOVE deal with it?
A long time ago I came across Ho’oponopono, the ancient Hawaiian / Polynesian process of forgiveness. I used this and had amazing results. I still use this process today, not in the exact method, but in the spirit of it.
I also know that forgiveness is healing. Did you get that? Forgiveness is Healing.
The state of forgiveness is more important that the who, what, where, why, and when. However, once in the state of forgiveness, and you have forgiven someone for hurting you, and the reasons why you think they did, go ahead and forgive them for as many possible reasons why they may have hurt you. If you think you know, chances are you don’t. Now, it may not be necessary, but it may be more beneficial in the long term. It kinda cleans up any left over smudges of pain.
I found myself going over situations that pained me in the past, that still pain me in the present. So I started forgiving for multiple possibilities, and in multiple realities, in my multidimensional state, and I have found this to be much more comprehensive. It covered so much more. I felt a deep clean sensation. A complete state. A done-ness that was refreshing.
Go ahead…try it on. Forgive for all possible reasons you can think. Open up and see.
Original Post: 2/13/2015
When was the last time you fell in love?
You know, that feeling that flows through your entire being, the feeling that influences all your experiences?
Try This On:
Stand in front of the mirror, just like you do every morning, look yourself in the eyes, and say “I Love You”.
Do it every morning for 30 days or until you “feel” it.
Go ahead! Make your day!
Questions and answers exist simulateously.
Solutions and problems exist simultaneously. Most often the solution is in the problem itself.
Don’t search for answers… prepare for them. Answers are not “found”, they will show up when you are prepared for them.
Have you been struggling with that first step, putting off getting into shape, or starting a new fitness program? How about a new way of eating or taking better care of your physical expression during your time here on this planet? How many times have you started a new “diet” or exercise program only to succumb to the habit of late night snacks or big eye lunch orders? How many times have you purchased a piece of exercise equipment only to use it as a way to save “clean” clothes from unnecessary washing? How many gym memberships have you purchased only to lose interest after a few months for one reason or another? Believe me when I say I’ve done all that and more.
It’s nearly impossible to “jump” from one level of vibration to another at the whim of a highly charged momentary desire for change. Especially if that charge is in a desperate place. After all, your current situation is a manifestation of all that you are and all you have been up to this moment. Imagine having the ability to manifest all you want and at the same time “un-manifest” all you have…that’s right….un-manifest!
How about trying a new way to make lasting change in your life; One small step at a time?Fitness: Starting can be as easy as doing one pushup a day for the next 7 days. Do them that same time every day (habit making); for example, every morning before you get ready for your day. Do one pushup. Once you are motivated to do an extra one, start doing two (but never do less than your last highest number), then three, and four, etc. Before you know it, you’ll be pumping out pushups until they get boring.
Diet: Can be as easy as starting with a small change in quantity as well as a small change in quality. Portion control of one meal (usually your late meal) can make a big difference in how you feel in the morning. WHAT you eat is more important than HOW MUCH you eat. Small changes start habits. (2% rule) Eating well is as much a habit as eating poorly. Good habits are as easily made as bad habits, except when conflicting with the bad habits. When we attempt to replace those bad habits with good ones, it seems more difficult because we are so much more connected to the process. How, then, can we use this information to help us make better choices in our lives? One small step at a time… Go Ahead…Try It On!
Original Post: 2015-02-23
How do you address your significant other (or anyone that you love, admire, or appreciate. It could even be a pet)? Do you call them by name, or do you use words like “Love’ and “Honey”, or “Baby”, or “Beautiful”? Are you addressing what you LOVE about them? Are you speaking to the part of them that shines?
So, you show them, and vibrate with, appreciation and admiration then? Do you express, from your heart, through your voice-box (or non-verbal) toward them? Hmmm…….You CAN? Great!
NOW, Can You Talk to Yourself Like That?
Go ahead….try it on. Make Your Day!