The other day I saw a neighborhood cat sitting on my wife’s car. My wife hates cats, I’m indifferent. Since I grew up with them and can’t have one due to the wife’s cat allergy, I’ve just follow along in the “ugh, cats” attitude.
The next day I washed my car (love the car), only to see little muddy cat paw prints on my hood an hour later. My first reaction was anger. “How could this little stray/not-really stray cat walk all over my car. I had fantasies of throwing something at the cat to scare it from getting back on my hood; negative reinforcement (I know better, so I only thought about it). I just washed the paw prints off and moved on.
The next morning, the little booger walked all over my hood AGAIN! The nerve of that little hairball. Oh man! I was just shaking my head. I got in my car and I drove angry.
Attitude is everything
While driving I thought to myself. I don’t like the way I feel. This anger is bullshit. It feels bad. Why would I want to feel this especially when I have so many skills in changing my state? So I went to work. “What if I were a cat person?” What if I loved cats? I would think those little paw prints were so cute! Adorable little cat prints all over my hood. Imagining the cat waking around, wanting to be near my stuff, sitting atop my car, guarding it, waiting for me.
That changed everything.
Go ahead… Try It On.
What if your judgements were different? What would LOVE do? How would LOVE deal with it?