Hey There Beautiful!

Yes YOU….B E A U T I F U L ! You thought I was talking to someone else?

How often do you address or even acknowledge your beauty? When was the last time you looked in the mirror and expressed appreciation for the beauty in you, the REAL you? Do you spend more time looking at what you don’t like about yourself, your life, your situation, your house, job, hair, weight, city, family, relationship, or life in general?

Well?…… STOP IT! Just stop. It’s OK to not be happy with (fill in the blank), after all, it’s how we generate desire, evolve, change, and grow. Just DON’T LIVE THERE!

If you live in that place of dissatisfaction, the rest of you, the beautiful you, gets covered, like a garden of flowers. If you don’t control the weeds, the flowers will get covered and eventually they will stop growing all together.

Here’s an exercise for you…..

Feed the flowers: Every single morning when you look at yourself in the mirror, say “I Love You”. Try it. It may be uncomfortable at first. But keep doing it. The part that you are speaking to might say something like “who me? you talking to me? I haven’t heard from you in a while I almost forgot the sound of your voice.” Keep doing it. And, to make it even more powerful, say it at night right before you go to bed. Every. Single. Night.

That body of yours, the one you criticize over and over again; when was the last time you thanked it for moving you around, for supporting you, for carrying your ass everywhere? Speak to it as you would a child. Be nice, be appreciative, be grateful, and encouraging. If you don’t like something about it, conspire with it to change WITH you, not FOR you.

Pull the weeds: Every cell in your body is listening to your words. Your words are powerful, so use good ones, elevating ones, and helpful ones. STOP looking at yourself and saying things like “I hate my body” It’s listening to you. Bio-energetic changes occur with your language. Be nice.

Now don’t bullshit it either, it’s smarter than you think. Don’t go from “I hate you” to “I love you”. Ease into it by just saying “thank you”, then go to “I appreciate you”, and eventually you’ll get to “You Freaking ROCK!”.

Try It On. Go ahead. #TRYITON

State of mind

I’ve been hearing this phrase for a few years now; mindset, state of mind, money mind, etc… I often wondered what it meant to have a poverty mindset, or abundance mindset. Until recently there seemed to be cloudiness around what I was able to see within myself.

For the last 30 years I have been a student of the self; my being, my mind, my programs, my history, my belief systems, constantly on a path of self mastery. I have read more than I ever thought I could, took more classes, workshops, weekend events, healing modalities, did hypnosis work, the list goes on.

Then it hit me. I have been looking to “fix” something that I believed was broken within myself. The mere fact that I was looking for something pointed to what I felt I was lacking.

As long as I am looking for cures, help, fixes, changes, improvements, I am in a “broken” or incomplete mindset. The trick for me is to recognize that the habit of self improvement needs to be for a different reason than why it started.

I believe in a growth mindset from a position of power and not weakness or pain/fear. Learn, evolve, challenge current systems, and keep moving forward. Even rest needs to be part of this. Knowing when to simply play is important as well. Always give yourself time to enjoy the ride.

And STOP trying to fix yourself! You are perfect and you are on the right track.






Life Happens For You

It’s been a while since I posted here.

It’s been an interesting journey to say the least.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of “change your thoughts, change your life”. It seems people think they have found a new tool to use to change parts of their lives. They start by using affirmations, or quotes from other people, or even memes. Then it seems they start to abandon their efforts due to the lack of desired effect. Then they feel empowered again by reading someone else’s experience, or listen to a motivational speaker. They get motivated to try again. And again.  And again.

I feel that there is a fundamental truth to the “thoughts create your reality” concept. The underlying principle is a universal law. It just feels “true”, as if we somehow have known all along.

Now… many of us try to use this to change a certain part of our lives; finances, relationships, health, etc.  The problem is that changing only one aspect is nearly impossible.  You see, the creator of that one aspect also created the other aspects from the same spot.  If the spot changes, everything changes.

You can (if you want) think of everything as a “relationship”.  Relationship with, money, love, health, others, the world, source, etc. They are all still relationships.  How do you relate?

So, expect everything to change. Welcome it, embrace it, and enjoy the ride.  It will change for sure, that you can count on.


#bethechange #breathefire #tryiton #gottaloveit



How you do anything is how you do everything

When you think about it, everything you experience is a relationship. Your relationship with your work, life, lover, friends, yourself, your pets, your finances, home, etc.  In fact, I can’t think of anything in life that is not in relationship with ourselves. Go ahead and try for yourself.

The degree to which you relate to yourself, or aspects of yourself, is the degree to which you relate to everything, or aspects of everything. You can be attentive to some parts of your life and not others. Love some parts and not others, are interested in some aspects but not others, or simply be indifferent. The “way” you relate is what is important. “How” you think and not “what” you think. “What” you think is a product of the “how” and the same goes for “how” you relate to your world, your life, or your experience with your existence. The relationship itself is the “what”.

How do you relate to “you”?  How does your relationship with others reflect your relationship with yourself? How is the world a mirror of yourself?

Try It On!






Paw Prints


The other day I saw a neighborhood cat sitting on my wife’s car. My wife hates cats, I’m indifferent. Since I grew up with them and can’t have one due to the wife’s cat allergy, I’ve just follow along in the “ugh, cats” attitude.

The next day I washed my car (love the car), only to see little muddy cat paw prints on my hood an hour later. My first reaction was anger. “How could this little stray/not-really stray cat walk all over my car. I had fantasies of throwing something at the cat to scare it from getting back on my hood; negative reinforcement (I know better, so I only thought about it). I just washed the paw prints off and moved on.

The next morning, the little booger walked all over my hood AGAIN! The nerve of that little hairball. Oh man! I was just shaking my head. I got in my car and I drove angry.

Attitude is everything

While driving I thought to myself. I don’t like the way I feel. This anger is bullshit. It feels bad. Why would I want to feel this especially when I have so many skills in changing my state? So I went to work. “What if I were a cat person?” What if I loved cats? I would think those little paw prints were so cute! Adorable little cat prints all over my hood. Imagining the cat waking around, wanting to be near my stuff, sitting atop my car, guarding it, waiting for me.

That changed everything.

Go ahead… Try It On.

What if your judgements were different? What would LOVE do? How would LOVE deal with it?






I’ve been noticing this world a-lot more lately; hope.  “I hope this happens” or, “I hope she gets better” or, “I hope things turn around”, “I hope this president _____”, etc…

“Hope” vs. “expectation”.

The energy of the word “Hope” includes and ingredient of fear, whereas the word “Expect” does not. Hope usually comes from a fear place fear of unworthiness, fear of being unlucky, invisible, or unimportant. , Expectation comes from knowing, intuition, almost taken for granted.

Hope depends on others to manifest outside your privy, or your responsibility, expectation manifests for you, because of you, and from within you.

Does life happen TO you or does life happen FOR you?

Try it on.  Change your hope for expectation. If it feels uncomfortable, good, it’s a starting place to find any limiting beliefs about yourself. You are beautiful. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of all that you desire. It boils down to what you believe about yourself and your relationship to you life.

I’m not saying don’t hope, hope is valuable. Instead, expecting what you desire rather than hoping for it sends a very clear message to the universe. Subtle, silent, and strong expectation; like expecting tomorrow to come, or your next breath. Simple concept, difficult practice.

I hope this makes sense.  😉






Watch Your Mouth

Do it

This is sort of a re-post from a few years back.

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me”.

This was the quote we were taught to say when we were younger (I’m 50) when someone would call us names. We used to say it like a little kid, nanny nanny boo boo. In the mean time, we would walk a way with this feeling in our guts, this pain, these burning questions, why didn’t that work, or why do I still feel bad?

It’s because Words Are Powerful…Period.

Words cause our nervous systems to respond. They cause physiological and neurological responses in our bodies. Good words, bad words, and neutral words. More importantly are the meanings we give those words.

Ask yourself if you would talk to others the way you talk to yourself. Would you?  Do you speak highly to yourself or poorly?  Do you nurture yourself, or condemn or criticize? Are you forgiving and compassionate or judgmental and disappointed? Choose wisely your words to yourself and to others, they are part of the palette we use to paint our worlds.






Do It


Original Post 2/17/2015

Do it….Take the first step

Motivation is important. But what do you do when that flash of motivation starts to dim?  Where is the inspiration, the spark that started the whole thing?

A little determination might be in order to keep the motivation in high gear. How about humility, realistic goal setting, clear vision, certainty, or patience? These are just a few ingredients for change.

When I was cycling, I used to look up at the top of a hill I was climbing (searching for my next breath) and realized that I’d get psyched out while looking at the top. I started the mantra “big circles, big circles” (the circles your feet make while pedaling), ignoring the distance to the top to focus on only  making big circles. One circle after another is what got me to the top (as well as that breath I was looking for). I use this mantra while running, practicing karate, teaching, or anything that requires quiet determination…one step at a time.

For some of us the first step is the hardest.  The motivation, inspiration, and all the ingredients are there, however if you are not willing to ACT, you will not move from where you are right now. The first step is the most important. It establishes momentum.  I still find myself struggling with that first step.  My inner thoughts are often: I don’t want to waste time.  I don’t want to make another mistake or I’m afraid my dreams will be shattered and I don’t want to look foolish.   All of these obstacles are self imposed.  Take a step, any step. The right step, the wrong step, any step will do. Take it and see what happens. Some of us need to structure each step. Some of us just need to take the first one and off we go. I tell my karate students all the time, you will never know what you can do unless you try. So….try it.  Take a step.





Fall In Love


Original Post: 2/13/2015

When was the last time you fell in love?

You know, that feeling that flows through your entire being, the feeling that influences all your experiences?

Try This On:

Stand in front of the mirror, just like you do every morning, look yourself in the eyes, and say “I Love You”.

Do it!

Do it every morning for 30 days or until you “feel” it.

Go ahead! Make your day!






Q & A


Questions and answers exist simulateously.

Solutions and problems exist simultaneously. Most often the solution is in the problem itself.

Don’t search for answers… prepare for them. Answers are not “found”, they will show up when you are prepared for them.